When dealing with infertility, some issues never truly go away. Brandon and I are pregnant and we are still faced with difficult decisions...
When I began writing about our fertility journey, I knew that I wanted to share EVERYTHING. It's not often that you find a blogger as candid as myself who discloses their identity. I hope that in the bearing of my soul on this space, someone else will find answers, comfort, and information to help them along their own pathway to parenthood.
Last week we received a letter in the mail from ART regarding our frozen sperm (11 vials). The likelihood of us using them is slim to none. Yes, we attempted one IUI in October 2011, but it did not end well for us. Both the doctors at UAB and ART agreed that IVF is the best way for us to conceive. In an IUI attempt, we would need to use both fresh and frozen samples (from Brandon) combined to get an adequate amount of swimmers for success. All the while having four frozen embryos, neither of us want to go down the IUI road again.
Brandon and I had to think hard about this situation. Obviously there is a cost to keep them preserved. The cost for keeping our little swimmers on ice is $600 per year. We also have to pay the same fee for our little frozen embies. It's only money, but it felt like a wasted expense when we will most likely never need the frozen sperm. In the likelihood that our attempts at another pregnancy fail with the remaining four embryos (through FET)... I can't even imagine. The thought of another pregnancy and child is not so far out of our minds at the moment. BUT we will cross that bridge when we get there. In the event that two FETs fail, Brandon and I would then have to decide if we wanted to attempt IVF again. In the event of pursuing the process again starting with IVF, I am positive that we would be able to retrieve enough sperm for ICSI. That was truly the only worry that Brandon and I had.
Being pregnant with Elliana now and having to make these decisions brought up so many feelings that I've not experienced in quite some time. Whether Brandon and I attempt to become pregnant again seems selfish at the moment. I am forever thankful to God for the gift of Elliana. At the moment I cannot wrap my head around the idea of fertility treatment again with a child. I know that's because I don't need to worry about that yet. Brandon and I will both know when it's time to get back on the infertility roller coaster again.
I delivered the paperwork to destroy and discard our frozen sperm on Friday while I was at Brookwood. I highly doubt that anyone would benefit from using our little frozen guys or Brandon and I would have discussed donation.
Thank you for staying with me through this post. I know that I've not talked as much about my fears and anxiety through this pregnancy because I haven't had any. I'm not like most of the women who still have apprehension through their pregnancy after overcoming infertility. I lost that feeling weeks ago and I pray that my other infertility sisters can feel the same peace. BUT having to watch Brandon sign the paperwork and then deliver it brought me back to that dark place.