Sunday, April 29, 2012

My Infertility Superhero

My Infertility Superhero is Sheri, my sister-in-law.  Her story has been incredibly inspirational to me.  She is married to my husband's brother, Brian.  They tied the knot on April 17, 2004.  Her doctors had given her an indication that if they wanted children, they should start trying sooner rather than later.

Married 2004

They had their fair share of struggles with Infertility.


She tried Clomid, Femara, Injects, 6 IUIs, 3 IVFs, and 2 FETs.  She had multiple HSGs, SISs, and numerous surgeries.  She also started her journey at UAB and ended up at ART at Brookwood.  (After our issues with UAB, we chose to move to ART because they had given us our nephew, and Sheri spoke so highly of them.)

On her 3rd IVF attempt, she got pregnant with our nephew, Bryson.
He is almost 3 years old now. =)  God is so good!  He does provide!

They had two remaining frozen embryos and did a transfer this past August, but she miscarried at 5 weeks 2 days.  From her first beta, the numbers were low and she remained in "beta hell" for over a week.  She would have been due this week.  Even though she experienced this loss, she stayed so strong and positive. 

Christmas 2009
Sheri is diagnosed as having "unexplained infertility" and now secondary infertility.  When I first met her, they were already well into their journey of trying to conceive.  It was hard for me to understand what she was going through.  I would just listen.  Most of the time, I ended up having to look up things on google because I didn't understand all of the procedures she was talking about.  I remember when the 2nd IVF attempt failed.  I was upset for her but didn't know what to say.  When she told me how much she longed for a child, I didn't understand.  Even though her desire for a child was strong, she remained so positive to those around her. 
Football Season 2010
When we decided to start trying, she was the first person I told.  She told me all about Fertility Friend.  I don't think she even thought we'd have this much trouble getting pregnant!  My journey would have been so different without her.  I would be lost.  I would be mad.  I would be depressed.


Football Season 2011
I have been lucky to be able to share my journey with her.  Many women go through this alone.  She has held my hand each and every step of the way.  She and I have dissected  my charts, obsessed over symptoms, and cried many tears together.  Our friendship has grown.  I can't go more than a few days without talking to her.  I wouldn't have been able to make it this far in the journey without her.  She has carried me.  She has prayed for me.  She has been one of the few people that I talk to on a regular basis that truly knows how I'm feeling.  God puts people in our lives for a reason.  Sometimes I wonder if I married Brandon just to have Sheri as my sister (kidding, love you Brandon!). 

Not every hero wears a mask. 

11 comments:

  1. This is so beautiful and wonderful you have someone close to you who understands! Wow! She sounds like one STRONG lady!! Thanks for sharing about her. :)

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  2. Love this post and all the great photos. We all need someone like this in our lives!

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  3. it's so awesome that you have someone to talk to who knows exactly what you're going through!

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  4. Hi from ICLW! I am so glad that you have your SIL to go through this with, talk with and know that you will always be understood. Wishing the best for both of you!

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  5. What a blessing to have someone like that in your life!!!

    Perusing your blog via ICLW (#86)

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  6. Wow, you truly are blessed to have her in your life! What an amazing friendship and source of support! I am glad you have someone who really knows the heartache of infertility. Best wishes for you as you continue your journey. xoxo

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  7. A superhero indeed - what a journey she's had! I'm so glad the two of you have each other to share the laughter as well as the tears. Have you shared this post with her? I'm sure she would be so touched to read your tribute.

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  8. ::thumbs up:: what a blessing to have a true IF veteran and such an understanding supporter right in your own family.

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  9. That is so nice that you have someone other than your husband to talk to about your struggles!

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  10. A determined heart really gets rewarded. :] Being that you’ve seen her struggles and how she defeated them all, it’s ideal that you chose her as your hero. Infertility is one of the most demoralizing adversaries one can ever have. It targets you emotionally, battling with your own expectations and recurring disappointments.

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